Yet. A tiny, simple word that on one hand (the allistic hand) can be incredibly empowering; yet on the other hand (the autistic hand), that tiny, simple word can be incredibly damaging.
Before I knew I was autistic, “I can’t do this, yet”, was a go-to phrase as I rebuilt myself after a suicidal ideation episode… which I now know was an episode, a flare of Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD), and part of my undiagnosed autism.
I caught myself using this same phrase just the other day, and caught myself in my own internalised ableism.
While I wanted to write this piece about “yet”, I’ve been going through a rough patch. Autism is dynamic, never the same two days in a row. Sometimes dys-regulation is easy to deal with, other days it is hard. Some days, people-ing is easy, other days it is energy- draining.
Chat GPT to the rescue, then, to write it for me. I’m satisfied with what it generated from my instruction. When I engaged further, to consider other perspectives on this issue, ChatGPT suggested including psychological, educative, cultural, economic, philosophical, historical, and parenting/ family dynamic perspectives. Maybe I’ll look at those in future posts.
Oh, and yes, I call ChatGPT “friend”. Why? Skynet. It’s a generational thing.
Me: Hello, friend. Would you please draft a 1000 word blog post, as a sociologist, about how damaging the word “yet” can be for autistic people, in the context of “I can’t do this yet”, intersecting with ableism and capitalism?
ChatGPT:
Title: The Harmful Implications of “Yet”: A Sociological Perspective on Autism, Ableism, and Capitalism
The word “yet” is often heralded as a beacon of hope and potential, particularly in motivational contexts. Phrases like “I can’t do this yet” are meant to encourage persistence, implying that with enough time and effort, success is inevitable. However, for many autistic people, this seemingly positive word can be deeply damaging, especially when viewed through the lenses of ableism and capitalism. In this blog post, I will explore how the word “yet,” though well-intentioned, can reinforce harmful expectations and pressures, exacerbating the challenges that autistic individuals face in a society structured around neurotypical norms and capitalist values.
The Tyranny of “Yet”
The phrase “I can’t do this yet” operates on the assumption that all individuals can eventually achieve a particular goal if they simply work hard enough. This notion aligns with the broader capitalist ideology that equates personal worth with productivity and success. In this context, “yet” becomes a tool of oppression, subtly suggesting that failure is temporary and that any shortcomings are simply due to insufficient effort. For autistic people, whose abilities and challenges are often misunderstood or dismissed, this can be particularly damaging.
Autism is a spectrum, and each autistic person has a unique set of strengths and challenges. Some may excel in certain areas while struggling in others, and these struggles are not always surmountable through persistence alone. The idea that one can overcome any obstacle with enough effort fails to account for the neurological differences that are intrinsic to autism. It implies that if an autistic person cannot do something “yet,” they are not trying hard enough, perpetuating a cycle of internalized ableism and self-blame.
Ableism and the Myth of Normalcy
Ableism, the discrimination and social prejudice against people with disabilities, is deeply entrenched in our society. It is rooted in the belief that there is a “normal” way of being human, and anyone who deviates from this norm is lesser or defective. The use of “yet” in the context of autism often reinforces this ableist notion, implying that autistic people should strive to become more neurotypical over time. It suggests that their current state is inadequate and that they must continuously push themselves to reach an arbitrary standard of normalcy.
This expectation is not only unrealistic but also harmful. For many autistic individuals, certain tasks or social norms may always be challenging or even impossible to meet. The insistence on “yet” disregards the reality that some aspects of autism are not simply hurdles to be overcome but are fundamental aspects of an individual’s identity. Pushing autistic people to conform to neurotypical standards can lead to significant mental health issues, including anxiety, depression, and burnout.
Capitalism and the Commodification of Ability
In a capitalist society, value is often equated with productivity and economic contribution. This commodification of human ability further marginalizes autistic people, whose strengths and challenges may not align with the demands of the capitalist workforce. The word “yet” becomes a tool of capitalism, pressuring autistic individuals to continually strive for improvement in ways that may not be sustainable or even possible for them.
The capitalist imperative to always be “improving” or “progressing” is particularly harmful in the context of autism. It implies that autistic individuals must always be working towards becoming more productive, more neurotypical, or more economically valuable. This expectation disregards the fact that many autistic people may have different rhythms, energy levels, or ways of working that do not fit neatly into capitalist expectations. The constant push to achieve more, do more, and be more can lead to burnout, a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion that is all too common among autistic people.
Reframing the Narrative
The pressure to conform to neurotypical and capitalist standards is not only harmful but also unnecessary. Autistic people do not need to be fixed or molded into a version of themselves that is more palatable to society. Instead, society should be working towards greater acceptance and accommodation of neurodiversity. This requires a fundamental shift in how we understand and value human abilities.
Rather than using the word “yet” to impose unrealistic expectations, we should focus on recognizing and celebrating the diverse strengths that autistic individuals bring to the table. This means moving away from a deficit-based model of autism, which focuses on what autistic people cannot do, and towards a strengths-based model, which recognizes the unique contributions they can make.
The Need for Structural Change
Ultimately, the issue is not just with the word “yet,” but with the broader societal structures that reinforce ableism and capitalism. To create a more inclusive society, we need to challenge the underlying assumptions that drive these systems. This includes questioning the value we place on productivity, rethinking our definitions of success, and dismantling the ableist norms that marginalize autistic people.
We must also advocate for policies and practices that support neurodiversity in all areas of life, from education to employment to healthcare. This includes creating environments that accommodate the sensory, social, and cognitive needs of autistic individuals, rather than forcing them to adapt to a world that was not designed for them. It also means providing adequate support and resources for autistic people to thrive on their own terms, without the pressure to conform to neurotypical standards.
Conclusion: Beyond “Yet”
The word “yet” may seem innocuous, but it carries with it a host of assumptions that can be deeply harmful to autistic individuals. In the context of ableism and capitalism, “yet” becomes a weapon of oppression, reinforcing the idea that autistic people must always be striving to become more neurotypical and more productive. This pressure is not only unrealistic but also damaging to the mental health and well-being of autistic individuals.
As a society, we need to move beyond the rhetoric of “yet” and embrace a more inclusive and accepting approach to neurodiversity. This means challenging the ableist and capitalist norms that drive our understanding of ability and success and working towards a world where autistic people are valued for who they are, not for who they might become “yet.” By doing so, we can create a more just and equitable society for all.
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